Imagine being such a great lover that women can see it in your eyes!

Hello!

My name is Scott Holland and I am the author of "How To Overcome Shyness and Find The Woman Of Your Dreams".

Like you, I used to find it hard to approach women - even harder to ask them for a date. So I know how you feel!

I know how painful and demoralising it can be to watch other men picking up and dating the women you want to be with. I know what it is like to spent night after night on your own, through lack of confidence and fear of rejection.

You know what I mean when I say that being a man is not easy these days.

Our roles are no longer clearly defined: the old rules no longer apply. We have had to adapt quickly to changes in the workplace and in the home, and especially in the way we relate to women.

On the one hand, it feels like we still have to be competitive and often the main breadwinner, or our self-esteem suffers. On the other hand, we are expected to be sensitive, caring, attentive and good listeners - and do our share of housework and - some day - child care.

And when it comes to finding the right partner - or even just a casual date - it’s like stepping into a minefield surrounded by quicksand.

Many men feel confused about what women expect of them. There’s no way of knowing whether the woman we open a door for will thank us or rebuke us. We’re no longer sure if an offer to buy a drink or a meal will be met with gratitude or sarcasm. If we devote too much time to work, we risk being accused of neglecting our partner’s needs: yet we also see women who seem content to do most of the spending while their men do most of the earning. Women - quite rightly - demand equal opportunities and equal status. Yet there is also a feeling that, in some areas, men are being pushed into second place.

In short, we are confused about what women really want.

Which makes it that much harder for us to know how to approach a woman we are attracted to. It is so easy to say or do the wrong thing, that many men have just about given up on making the first move.

So - out of sheer frustration - I invested many hours, many thousands of miles of travel and many thousands of pounds researching female sexuality and psychology and a great deal more time and energy finding out what actually works in practice. In other words, how to get to “yes” without fear of rejection.

Of course, that doesn't mean that you will never be rejected - just that it won't matter any more - you will be able to handle it, dismiss it and move on without looking back!

Now for some little-understood truths about women...

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